I wish I never REGRET about these things in my life again
According to the studies…
Regret — is a negative cognitive/emotional state where one feels sad or disappointed and involves blaming ourselves for a bad outcome, feeling a sense of loss or sorrow at what might have been or wished we could undo a previous choice we made.
We all regret it. Even right now many are regretting something or the other. That’ fine and required too but living in regret for long-term can have adverse effects too.
Where does this regret thing come from? Here are some of the valid reasons giving rise to regret in our minds and lives. There are plenty of reasons for regretting someone or something. Listed under are some amongst them. Have a look:
- Not living life on your terms or not being true to yourself
- Giving all the time to work neglecting other vital aspects of life
- Working at the expense of friendship and relations
- Losing that opportunity and regretting over it
- Thinking of being happier and light in life but not working on it
- Not bold enough to express the feelings of our mind and soul
- Wishing to follow the passion we love while adopting something else
- Getting involved with the wrong group of friends
- Not investing assets and time on ourselves in time
- And not asking that girl or boy out(optional)
Here’s what I came up with. These might give a peek into the actual factors responsible for regret of anything and also their cure to make the day full of happiness and productivity.
1. Be more of yourself
- You need to take steps for your life, steps that might be wrong as well as steps that might be right. Learn the difference and make sure you are being true to yourself. Have faith in living your life on your terms. There’s nothing wrong with following or idolizing someone but always try to be the original you as you always are.
- Always be yourself, never wear a mask to blend in or fit in with other people. You need to focus more on your perception rather than that of others. We need to figure out what we need to be.
If you don’t fit in the crowd, maybe you are meant to lead it.
2. Don’t strike too hard on yourself
Make sure you are the best in the room as by your hard work. Also, make sure you don’t get drowned by it. Be flexible in your schedule and don’t overburden yourself with your work. Make some time for yourself and others from the daily schedule.
We try to make it all perfect and end up stressed because we never seem to succeed. We don’t have to win or be in control all the time. Don’t regret taking things a less seriously and simply enjoy the ride, that’s life baby. Go enjoy it while you can.
3. Selling memories and relations
Never compromise your friendship at the expense of your work. It hurts the most. Life gives us memories so do our work but the memories of our friends are something which always prevails. At the end of the day, all we have with us are our friends and their iconic memories. Even a walk to the next road with your pals can be full of memories. Make sure to take some time for them as well.
Taking people for granted is sadly a commonplace for many of us, indeed. We might have stayed in touch at first but then got busy. Sometimes, we thought to pick up the phone, but maybe we don’t have their number or email anymore. Honestly! this is my biggest grief and an all-time regret till now. Don’t get trapped by it.
4. Opportunity is all we care for.
That job you didn’t get; that girl you didn’t impress ;), that promotion you missed. There are probably more missed opportunities in our life than the ones we took and we constantly find ourselves regretting the things we lost. Don’t waste your time wandering about the opportunities you missed. Be prepared for the next ones coming right through in.
Perhaps what we think we want is not always the best thing for us. Perhaps there is a larger plan destiny has in mind.
“Focusing too much on a lost opportunity can be like carrying around a weight,” muses Blair Thomas, co-founder of eMerchantBroker. “When I have carried around too many regrets, it has impacted my ability to see new ventures.”
Sometimes opportunity knocks very softly.
5. Search your reason for happiness
Always feel happy with how your present is. You gotta enjoy your life and make sure your past never intervenes with your present happiness. Work will come and go but life won’t so make sure you have a good time enjoy your life apart from work. Make your health and wellness a top priority every day as you can’t take care of others if you aren’t taking care of yourself.
Enjoy your life as if you have its last day left off. It is required to be happy with what life has given you and what it will give in the future too. Take every moment as a chance to be happy and prosperous for the rest of the day. Here’s how we can see a glimpse of happiness in our lives:
- Enjoy the journey, not just the final destination.
- Practice admiration without envy.
- It takes the same amount of energy to frown as it does to smile.
- Stand for something or fall for anything (or anyone).
- Laugh often and daily. Find the funny in everything.
- Surround yourself with those who will tell it to you straight.
These practices don’t fit? No worries. There are plenty of ways one knows of about being happy, confident, kind, progressive, and whatnot…
“My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.” — Maya Angelou
6. Take your decision
6. There are times where you got to take hard decisions in your life. Be bold enough to understand what is right and what is wrong for you. Have the courage to take that decision of your life. Never suppress your feelings towards anything, be it your work, your life or even your partners, if needed. Be open and clear to what your heart says to you. Quote it down boldly. Speak the truth, even if your voice shakes. Maybe we just think poorly of ourselves. You need to take the decisions of your life, they don’t. Think, Understand and then Act properly for the firm decisions of your life that might change your life. Right decisions not made at the right time in the right way cannot be undone. Act smartly.
At last, all that we regret are decisions not taken and promises not fulfilled.
7. Follow your passion
Only you choose what you’re good at but none else. Find your passion. Find that one thing which makes you skip night sleeps. That one thing you always think about. That one thing you’re always interested in talking about. That’s your passion. Find it. Many of us are battling our lives for the decisions we made for it.
Listen to this! If you made that fucking decision; that’s over. You can’t remorse anything more about it. Seriously! Stop hitting the head with the question of why you did it or what was the point then? Embrace your decision. At least you thought something for yourself. That’s fine. Learn to recover from it and punch back harder with your next and better decision. And if people disagree with your path in life then, by all means, listen to their point of view, then review your reasons for doing what you’re doing and continue on your way.
8. The ‘right’ group of friends
Super necessary. Sometimes we make friends with the wrong crowd, except we don’t think there’s anything wrong with them. They’re our friends and maybe the only ones that truly understand us.
It’s not conventional. What I said here can be the opposite too. We need to make sure that we are sitting in the very crowd that gets enlighted on our success but not drag us in the hole. Friends enter our lives for reasons and seasons but make sure you take time to let those you care about know how you feel.
With that much said, I did a very good evening to all the folks just finished reading this post. If you find it good at any point, do give a clap:) That will mean a lot to me and will keep inspiring me to write more like this.
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